So I found myself looking at Facebook over the past few days and I see a ton of complaining. I thought it would be a great idea to post a list of a few things that annoy drag queens with the help of several queens who I had asked what just grinds their gears about the drag community.
1. Race Chasers
We all know at least one person that only cares about the Rupaul's Drag Race queens and spends all their time trying to get their attention. There's a difference between a supporter of drag and a supporter of Drag Race. News flash: THERES TONS OF OTHER PERFORMERS OUT THERE THAT DESERVE YOUR ATTENTION. Drag Race Queens aren't the only ones that exist. Explore the drag world and stop ignoring amazing talent. Thanks.
2. Getting compared to other queens
This is a huge one and it's not only a problem in the fanbase but queens do this as well as a form of throwing shade. Never...EVER...compare two queens and be like "you remind me of ...." Or "you're serving ... realness." One of the most disrespectful things you could do and even though queens don't say much to the fans about it, it secretly really pisses them off.
3. The "rules" of drag
We all get there are some basic standards, but drag should be an open art form...but there's too many "rules". Don't do this. Don't do that. You're wearing too many wigs. Your padding isn't good enough. You don't look feminine enough. Let everyone be creative!
4. Too competitive
In some instances, drag is a competition. But does it have to be a competition every single second of every single day? Does it make you feel superior to belittle that queen you know that performs at the same club or the club down the street? Save it for the stage, babe. Stop being rude.
5. Constant bashing of each other
One thing that is always very clear is that not all queens get along. Which is human nature. But some of it just gets way out of hand. It's like high school all over again. This community faces so much discrimination already, and instead of standing together, we're all fighting over the stupidest things and judging each other. It's okay if you don't get along, but does it do any good to post a status about it on Facebook calling someone else names and acting like a 15 year old? No. Resolve it and let it go. LET IT GO.
This category includes the obsessive Drag Race watcher that only pays attention to the show's contestants that thinks they know everything on this earth there is to know about drag and they judge everyone. Knock it off. Do your research. Drag Race isn't everything. It's a cool show, but you have no right to judge anyone if that's the only form of drag you pay attention to.
7. Mean Queens
I have experienced this first hand and it's a HUGE disappointment. I'm not a drag queen, I just like to interview them. This happens when someone gets too into their ego and they hold themselves up on a pedestal. Don't be mean. Being a drag queen is not synonymous with being rude. You're a performer. You're an artist. Hold your head high...but not too high. Drag is supposed to be fun. Don't take yourself too seriously.
8. Lack of unity
This community lacks so much unity it's crazy. We're one of the most judged communities there is in the world today and you would think we would all stand together when in fact it's the complete opposite. Why is it so hard to just accept each other? We should be good at that since we preach acceptance and self love.
9. Lack of respect towards variety
There are tons and tons of different types of drag. Why not embrace them? You could find something new and actually learn something. Be respectful to the variety and keep an open mind. It's what this community is supposed to be about.
10. "Mall" drag
I didn't even really know this was a thing until someone brought it up to me. From what I was told, it's okay if you're going to do something creative with it but to just wear the clothes as is without making it your own is frustrating to other queens. For those who don't know, "mall drag" is when someone goes to the mall and literally buys women's clothes and wears them as is without doing anything to make it their own.